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Friday, September 11, 2020

Author Interview: Quest for Exceptional Love by Darla Colinet

 

Darla Colinet is the founder and CEO of God’s Transforming Grace. She is an inspirational speaker, author, and consultant who dispels the confusion and lies about love and domestic abuse through God’s truth and Christ’s exceptional love design. Darla brings hope, insightful revelations, and practical strategies through her authentic personal stories from thirty years of domestic abuse in three marriages. When she’s not serving God from her home in Colorado, she and her husband, Alan, are off on their travel adventures.

Darla is a certified life coach and Christian coach, a member of the women’s ministry core team at Timberline Church in Colorado. She is a consultant for churches and their staff to understand how to live in Christ’s exceptional love design and to recognize and support victims of domestic abuse.

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ABOUT THE BOOK (BACK BOOK COVER)

“The butterfly does not look back at the caterpillar in shame, just as you should not look back at your past in shame. Your past was (is) part of your own transformation.” Anthony Gucciardi

This book is a true work of heart. Darla takes her complicated and often painful experiences and shares honestly and unashamedly to help Christians struggling with their own cocoons. Her ability to gently present the lessons she’s learned and the truth of God’s true and perfect love in her brokenness offers hope and healing.

Darla’s story reveals there is no one size fits all, seven easy steps to do this, and not that self-help book. She illuminates Christ’s truth to see his love design as we walk our unique life’s journey of transformation with him. Reflecting God’s love as the foundation of her life, Darla asks the tough questions:

·         What is a love design?

·         What is our love design?

·         What is the perfect love design?

·         What difference would it make in your life and relationships if you could live in perfect love?

·         How do you move from your imperfect love design to Christ’s perfect one?

Come walk and work through this life-changing experience of becoming and embracing God’s design for your life. Laugh and cry as Darla shares her personal trials and triumphs in her quest for true love, for herself, and her purpose. In your journey, you may discover Christ’s exceptional love for you!


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Reviewed in the United States on August 11, 2020
Quest for Exceptional Love is a mind-changer, a heart healer, a life changer! As I began reading, I kept thinking of all the people I knew who could benefit from it. Very soon however, as I “worked” my way through the book and workbook, it became a very personal path for me!

I have often been dismayed that our common portrayal of “Christian love” has more often been a betrayal of Christ’s love. Darla’s gentle reminder that we can only do what we know set the tome for the entire book. By the end of the study, I was profoundly surprised and “changed” by the principles, all sound and biblically based, contained in this study.

The potential for the impact of this study on individuals, either using it as a group study or a personal private journey, is staggering. I highly recommend it to anyone searching for a clear picture of how God’s infinite, unchanging, love could play out in their lives, homes, and Christian fellowship.

Each chapter, with the resources and exercises in the workbook, is like a portion of a road trip. It’s not a quick fix, but a carefully and prayerfully presented part of a journey leading to the clear goal of truly reaching understanding Christ’s love design

Book Excerpts

One of the greatest benefits of taking a journey is the opportunity to discover new things which can change everything. To begin any journey, you need to know where you are right now, and an idea of where you want to end up. All journeys begin right where you are.

(page 84) Discovering Christ’s Exceptional Love Design

My quest to find true love after my first abusive marriage led me into two more abusive marriages that also ended in divorce. However, six years into my third abusive marriage, I began diligently studying God’s word to figure out how I kept being deceived about love. His scriptures and truth began to speak to my heart.

He showed me how my broken love design was formed, and the lessons I had learned about love, relationships, and abuse throughout my life. He revealed how my faith and walk with Jesus had given me strength and hope. As I worked with Jesus, he healed and transformed my broken love into his love design.

All the shattered shards of my heart and life have become God’s masterpiece. My journey to find true love and to stop feeling lovestarved has equipped me to help other people who feel unloved, unlovable, and those who are still looking for his true love. It has given me a path to share Christ’s exceptional love design.

If you have struggled to find true love or to feel loved, you are not alone, and there is nothing wrong with you. The truth is, you have been missing Christ’s love design. And you can only do what you know. Don’t be deceived into the self-shame of the enemy by beating yourself up in your mind or with your words. Don’t fall into the trap of asking yourself why you can’t find true love, why you don’t feel loved, or why someone doesn’t love you.

(Page 94) God will reveal and confirm his truth as Jesus begins to transform your heart, mind, and broken love design. As you walk hand in hand with Jesus and know his heart, you will learn how to dwell in his unconditional love and share it with others. You will see your broken love being transformed into his healthy love. You will choose words and actions that would mirror Christ’s instead of reacting.

You no longer have to look for true love in your life because you are living in it in your relationship with Jesus every day. Since the day you accepted Jesus Christ into your heart, you have had his unconditional love living in you. Now it’s time to be courageous and let it thrive and multiply in you and flow out to others.


Saturday, September 5, 2020

Excerpt from "A God Sized Surprise"

 


This is the beginning of the story that is published in the Guide posts book Divine Interventions. To read the rest of it see the side bar for details.

The phone call left me confused. “I’m sorry, but we cannot offer you the position you interviewed for. We decided to hire someone else. Thank you for your interest.” Click. Stunned, the phone remained in my hand. I didn’t understand. They told me I had the job, and I already came in and met some of the students and the teachers. Dear God, why did this happen? What am I supposed to do now? It’s late September and I’ll never find another teaching job. I felt like such a failure after seeking employment in several other schools after I had left a tumultuous district. Later, I discovered the problem was due to legal matters. They had to hire back the person they fired, but that didn’t help matters when it was December, and I still wasn’t working. I filled out a few applications and prayed.  Dear God, Your word tells me to ‘Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you’ (Matthew 7:7). I’ve been asking, seeking and knocking for almost two years. Don’t you have anything for me, or do I need to forget about ever teaching again?” Unsure if I should still pursue this career, I turned to taking care of my family of three children, two cats and a husband, and I continued to fill out applications and pray. “Lord, lead me where you want me.”

January rolled around, bleak and dismal. I’d been out grocery shopping, when I walked into the house, shaking off the cold. My daughter, Mara, excitedly explained an enigmatic phone message. As I listened to it on the answering machine, I wondered who the person was that had called. I couldn’t place the rich, deep voice of the man or his name, Theodore, nor the school he referred to, The Circle of Courage. What kind of school was it and where was it located? I had never applied there, so I was perplexed. I listened to it over again and discovered that it was in a nearby city, Poughkeepsie, where I had no connections.

But maybe God was at work, so I decided to follow up. Once I was connected, Theodore explained. “We found your application on line with the BOCES system.”

I had forgotten I submitted that as computers and on-line applications were just beginning to be utilized. “I didn’t know you could access that. What kind of school are you?”

“We’re a public, special education school.” His voice reminded me of the actor, James Earl Jones.

Saturday, August 29, 2020

Unveiled Justice

During my quiet time with God while reading the new Testament, the Spirit of God opened my eyes.


Only Jesus can remove the veil that is over people’s eyes that has blinded them to truth and and a clear understanding of justice. Many things are happening today in America, such as violence, rioting, abortions, murder, sex trafficking, promiscuity and so on because of people’s ignorance of truth. Second Corinthians talks about this. “But their minds were blinded. For until this day the same veil remains unlifted in the reading of the old testament because the veil is taken away in Christ” (2 Corint.3:14).

People cannot understand God and what He does, which leads them to a false picture of God and of our purpose. Without an understanding of our purpose, we grab at straws and any passing pleasure or something that gives us a false sense of purpose.

 Often people misconstrue the God of the Old Testament as harsh and unmerciful, which causes them to turn away and not receive the gift of His mercy extend through Jesus Christ. Yet we can only truly understand God in light of Jesus Christ. Second Corinthians illustrates this clearly as a veil over their eyes. Not only are people veiled when reading the Old Testament, they are veiled in understanding the principles and character of God. They think either that God has changed when they look at the New Testament because of the difference or they think that he is a God of vengeance or they think he doesn’t exist because justice is not metered out quickly.

 

Yet when the Old and New Testament are understood through the revelation of the Holy Spirit, who we receive when we believe in the atoning work of Jesus Christ, we can see the true picture. We are most blessed living in the New Testament era because Jesus fulfilled all the requirements of the law in the Old testament. So God poured out his mercy upon us because we have been justified through Jesus Christ. It does not mean that God is no longer just or that He doesn’t care, but it highlights and sheds a spotlight on the amazing mercy He provided through His son. It demonstrates the incredible forgiveness of God for our sins as we repent and His abundant mercy that flows from Him through Christ to us.

 

When we look at the God of the Old Testament, we can only understand him fully through the work that His son did on the cross. Those who do not know the Christ turn to either the Old Testament or the New Testament and miss understand God and His justice. They therefore live in darkness because they do not have the revelation of Christ to shed light on the Old Testament.

 

All you have to do is look around at the mess America is in and realize that most people do not understand what is truth because they do not understand who God is and they have no revelation. Therefore, it is up to Christians to shed the light of truth on what is going on in America these days. We cannot bemoan the fact that they have no understanding. If you have not the son then you don’t have truth or revelation. We must be the ones to stand up for truth and to do it in the way of Jesus Christ. We need to stand firm with love. We must communicate the revelation of Christ through the power of the Holy spirit. Our words will not do. They must be founded on biblical truth and accompanied by action.

 

What action? Just look at the things that Jesus did. He promised that we would do these things and greater. He cared for people, he taught them truth, often through stories. he healed them; he feed the; he delivered them from demonic oppression and spirits. Today we see evidence of this demonic activity in drugs and addictions of all kinds—money, sex, power etc. Jesus also dialogued and discussed important principles of the kingdom of God with them, and above all else he loved them. He was patient with them and always got to the source of the issue. These are the things that we need to lean on the Lord to help us accomplish. It is our blessed opportunity and responsibility.

 

 

 

 

Thursday, August 13, 2020

Serendipity or God's Will?

 

It was a beautiful day in Lake George and I was enjoying the water and the copious sunshine. My  son and grand children were on the beach, while I was enjoying time in the water. While I was splashing around, I overheard a conversation that piqued my interest. I wandered over, listened then joined in a political discussion. At the end I stated , " I believe one of the most important things is to pray." Totally unexpected, the pretty blond raised her hand in a high five.

A long conversation ensued about both our political and spiritual view points. She too believes that our country is in dire need of prayer and repentance. As a leader of  a faith based program, "Celebrate Recovery", she has seen the devastation drugs and alcohol, along with poor parenting, focus on material possession, low self esteem, self-centered culture, violence and godlessness that our society has embraced. You may not think all of those issues are related to drug use, but they are. Just dig a little deeper and get the big picture. 

Though we didn't discuss all these topics we did talk about prodigal children and their struggles with several of these problems. My son happened to return to the water and I called him over and introduced them. He had attended Transformation Life Center, a Christian rehab, and they discussed that for a while with my new friend, Maureen. She knew all the right questions to ask and they spoke for almost ten minutes When they closed the conversation, as he walked back to his children, I suggested we pray. Right there in the middle of beautiful Lake George, we lifted our hearts to God concerning our children and all the prodigals that wandered away from the faith. Afterwards, we parted.

I was so struck by the whole incident--meeting a Bible believing, prayer warrior Christian, right smack dab in the middle of the Adirondacks. Yet an even greater surprise occurred that evening. The family had opted to attend the free barbecue that the hotel was offering, so I cancelled our reservations for the Boat Club. As I was munching on my burger, I turned around and saw Maureen. Surprised, I walked over to her table. Sitting there was an acquaintance of mine I hadn't seen in about fifteen years. Totally shocked, I called over to my husband and he didn't recognize her because it had been so long, but I did. We reconnected and chatted. She too was a Christian and facing some difficult issues. her father had just passed away and she was very close to him. I knew him as I was also friends with her two brothers and one of her brothers had lived around the corner from my husband and I. Sue, my former friend, knew Maureen and attended the same church. I gave her my phone number and I hope she will call.

The next day, as I pondered these events, it confirmed that God's timing is perfect. This hotel had no vacancies on the night the two woman stayed and so they must have pre-booked it as we had. The beach we met on was a private beach with only the hotel guests. We had planned not to be there at that time as I had made early dinner reservations, but then I saw the hotel offered the free barbecue, so we cancelled our original plans. All of this served as a reminder of God's sovereignty. If I hadn't cancelled, I would have missed out on three great blessings--meeting Maureen, praying with her, and reacquainting with an old friend. You may call it chance or serendipity, but I call it the hand of God guiding us towards His will!

Tuesday, July 28, 2020

A Call for Change

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I was going to entitle this post, " A Call for Repentance" but I wonder how many would have even considered reading it, though the two are linked in meaning. Repentance simply means to make a turn around, to change. For some this is a huge endeavor, like changing our lives 180 degrees and living for God rather than self. The Good News is that we have the Holy Spirit to help us repent.

But the clincher is what do we repent for? In the Christian realm, we need to repent for many things, sorry to break the news to you. You're probably wondering what do you need to change?
First of all, as a church, we need to repent of being lukewarm for Jesus, for allowing the things of this world, the allurements, to capture our heart. Things like money and all the goodies it can buy might be an issue for you, but more importantly, it's what you treasure in your heart. What do you spend your money and time pursuing? Take a moment and evaluate it. How far up or down on the list is Bible reading, prayer and worship? Do you spend the majority of your money on yourself or others? Of course, we all have bills, but what categories do they break down into? Do you give to the church?

I don't mean to condemn you, but to challenge you to reprioritize some things in your life. We need to confess our sins to Jesus in order to have pure hearts, so that the power of the Holy Spirit can fill us, especially as we pray and interact with others. In the Purpose Driven Life, Rick Warren emphasizes the importance of relationships. If we're focused on things, we put less time and energy into relationships. It's a litmus test for the treasures we are storing, either those of this earth or of heaven.

So why is repentance important and what does it have to do with relationships? As we look at our own sin, we become more humble and are less likely to be noticing everyone else's sin. The tendency is to have more compassionate hearts and want to reach out to help them. Clean hearts wield more power with God in prayer and prompt us to greater action. Often this action brings change. First a change of heart, then a change of our behavior and what we do. We become less self centered and more God centered. More God centered Christians effect more change on the earth and in the spiritual realm.

In addition, repentance often moves the hand of God to act on our behalf and what is ultimately best for us. However, we should not confess our sins with selfish aims, but that the will of God and His purpose will be done in us. And what is the first step in that process? Repentance-a turning away from the ways of self towards the ways of God.

It's a word that a lot of churches avoid today because of  not wanting to scare away the seekers and attract the youth, but sorry, without repentance you don't have the true picture of the Christian faith. If we want change, we need authentic repentance, not some kind of forced confession or kneeling to appease the world and its systems, but honest confession to God. We should confess to Him our sins of  pride, hatred, prejudice, self-centeredness, anger, violence, murderous thoughts and chasing after the idols of the world (things such as power, money, entertainment).

So I'm asking all of my readers, myself included, to pray about repenting. Ask God to cleanse your heart and forgive your sins, to give you eyes that really see yourself and your neighbor. Ask him to fill you with His love in order to foster relationships, to have wisdom in everything you say and do, to pray without ceasing and make an impact in someone's eternal destiny. That's the kind of  true change that we need!!

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Saturday, June 27, 2020

Calling All Prayer Warriors



This was written during the height of the pandemic and now I see that God was laying the foundation of what He is calling me and other Christians to do. On Saturday September 26th, we, along with thousands of Christians around the world, will be meeting in Kingston NY at the TR Gallo Waterfront Park to take part in a Day of Prayer in Repentance from 10:-3:30. This is in conjunction with The return https://thereturn.org/
Here is the article I wrote back in June:
Over the last several weeks, God has been calling me to pray more and more for our country and to inspire and encourage others to organize prayer walks in their cities. Little did I know that on June 20th, God did that in San Diego and 16,000 people from 135 churches gathered on street corners, in parks and on curbsides to pray. Though I live on the East Coast, a world away, it was exciting to know that God is hearing  our prayers as we pray for repentance and revival. Here's my prayer:

My heart is very burdened for the United States of America. There is so much evil trying to destroy it and so many willingly giving itself over to its agenda. Those who call themselves Christians really need to rise up in prayer at this time. I took a prayer walk around my neighborhood and my heart just cried out for all the sins of America: The spirit of rebellion against God, against authority and against all who would curb any self-indulgence, the sins of pride, lust, anger and hatred, pornography and child molestation, murder, the spirit of anger, and anarchy that is fighting for our nation.
My heart is burdened for those who are dying in the streets, for the addicted, for those who are under the sway of the enemy of their soul. Those who are called Christians need to rise up in prayer and take to the streets and pray. Lord I pray that you would send the David Wilkerson‘s of this nation, send them into the cities to bring the healing message of the gospel good news of reconciliation between God and man. I pray for the Nikki Cruz’s of America. Send evangelists to them, send your Holy Spirit to release them from the bonds of hatred, addiction, racial prejudice and self-destruction.
We pray Lord that you would have mercy on this nation, though we don’t deserve it. Break the bondage that the enemy has placed on its people while they were sleeping and unaware of the tactics. Quench the fires of our smoking cities with your Holy Spirit. Bring your peace and unconditional love to the land through your church. church rise up to your finest hour in history to go out into the streets and bring reconciliation in the name of Jesus Christ. 
This is part two of the prayer

God’s calling all prayer warriors to take to the streets of their towns and villages and especially the cities. To pray against the devices and strategies of the enemy. “No weapon formed against us, your church, will prosper.” Wake up Church and hear the cry of the Savior’s heart for the thousands of desperate ones who do not know you and do not know unconditional love. I pray for the church, we pray for the Church that it would rise up and take its place at the head and not at the tail, that it would lead with compassion and walk in the footsteps of Jesus Christ
Lord we pray for your mercy on America, though we do not deserve it. We repent of our idolatry as they are many, all centered around the selfish aims of power, greed, control, selfishness and rebellion.
Bring back our youth, our prodigals who have left because the tug of the world was too strong on them because they did not know the power of Jesus Christ and of the Holy Spirit, a dynamic power that converted men like Nicky Cruz, Michael Franzese and ourselves. Lord we need you desperately. We’re crying out for your help. Show your people what they are to do. In the name of Jesus Christ Amen.

God certainly showed the churches in San Diego what to do,,,Pray. Here's the article if you want to be encouraged!

Thursday, May 28, 2020

A Word for Pentecost



During this time of the pandemic and preceding it by several months, the Lord began to talk to me about a number of important things.

On December 22, 2019 the Lord gave me this word. “Rebuild the walls of prayer in the church.” They are the churches' protection against the onslaught of the enemy. Use your art to proclaim My message. Send the prayer cards out among the people in the churches.

Gather together a team of Prayer builders. As Nehemiah rebuild the walls of Jerusalem, so you should rebuild Prayer in the same manner. You will need to have a team praying while others are rebuilding The church.

Use “Gods at War” (by Kyle Idleman) as a basis for some of your prayers, destroying idols in the church.  involve your friends. Make it a goal for 2020. They are to pray from the four corners of the earth. Gather your friends from the north, south, east and west to pray for the church to demolish strongholds, smash idols, and reveal deception in the church.

I have had many words in-between, but I thought this one was relevant to this Sunday being the celebration of Pentecost.

May 2nd

Truly be still, listen, watch, know Me, then proclaim My word. My Word shall go out to all the earth and accomplish My will. Step in to the stream of My will and the Holy Spirit will guide you in all that you should do. My will is becoming more evident to my people. It is flowing throughout the land, gaining momentum. It has become now a rushing river heading to its destination – the ocean.

The ocean of my mercy and grace is spilling out over the land – washing away, cleansing and purifying. Come swim in the ocean. Don’t be afraid!

I will not allow a tidal wave to overtake you. Step into the ocean of My love. Let it buoy you on your destination with Me. What is your final destination? Heaven, where your journey from this side of the earth and cross over to Me. But for now, come into the boat with me and I will transport you to where you need to go. Are you in?


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